Divorce and separation are notoriously stressful and difficult processes for any couple to go through. Often, before the government paved the way for a wider inclusion and development of the professional mediation industry, couples were forced to rely on solicitors to organise their affairs during a split. Thankfully for those seeking mediation Surrey firms and indeed specialists in other locations can assist couples in divorce matters, alleviating the associated stress and financial pressure.

The difficulty inherent with this is that two solicitors are required within a divorce, one for each client and each has the objective of securing the best deal for their client, rather than a solution to financial and familial affairs that take a more holistic approach, to benefit the entire family.

Solicitors are also expensive and the legal process can become extended and drawn out, with the nature of legal letters tending to cause upset or even aggression in couples who can end up ‘going to war’ when tensions run high.

This is where a professional mediator is worth their weight in gold. Mediation Surrey services provide professionals to work with the couple together, talking within the presence of the independent and professional mediator to sort any disputes regarding finances, homes and legal arrangements. Mediation Surrey can offer shouldn’t be confused with guidance counselling; this stage occurs when the marriage has irretrievably broken down and avoids the prolonged time, stress and cost of the court process.

A professional mediator will work with the couple to find solutions that work for the family with practical and workable solutions that are fair. The process can reduce misunderstandings and tension and help to improve communication. This is extremely important in any divorce, but particularly where children are involved. Some mediators even offer additional services for children.

Essentially, a mediator is a trained negotiator and counsellor with a good knowledge of divorce law. They are skilled, impartial, non-judgmental and genuinely interested in reaching a workable solution for both parties in the divorce and any children.

Their report will be passed to the solicitor, if agreed by the couple and can be made into a binding court order. Although there may be a cost attached, it will only be a fraction of engaging solicitors and many mediators work for charitable organisations.